Dara Poznar l Life Coach
Be Confident. Be Successful. Find Purpose.
Most people say they live without a clear sense of purpose or direction in life. The result is a lack of motivation to achieve goals and form healthy habits, unsatisfying relationships, drudgery, low self-esteem, anxiety, and unhappiness.
On the flip side, having clear direction and focus means being healthy, resilient, and motivated to live your dreams. You have more confidence. You come alive! The world needs that aliveness more than anything. Whatever struggle has brought you here in search of a coach to guide you is a call to tune in and connect with yourself, so that you can achieve what you want- to be more confident and more successful in every way. To love your life!
And that's the work I'm passionate about.
The world needs people who are fully alive; who have found purpose and live confidently. Purpose is revealed by embracing the fullness of your experiences, meeting life head-on, and getting to know yourself deeply and intimately. Something no one can do alone.
Let's work together to uncover the deeper truth of you.
As a result:
You'll be more confident and successful, have direction and clear goals, improve your relationships. and find purpose. You'll be happy with yourself and your life.
As a Positive Psychology Coach, I focus on guiding my clients to the deep self-knowledge required for success and fulfillment in life and love.
GET TO THE TRUTH OF YOU AND COME ALIVE.
no mud, not lotus.
"I have friends who have worked with coaches so I reached out to Dara. It was the best decision I could have made."
-Bokhara G., San Francisco
If you've been wondering how to be confident, I've got a strategy that works.
What does it actually mean to be confident? Confidence has to do with self-assurance. Essentially, you need to believe in yourself- in your own character and abilities- to be confident. And to achieve that, you've got to know yourself and what you have to offer. Ultimately, the answer to how to be confident is to be sure of who you are.
When you lack confidence it causes quite a bit of suffering. A lack of self-confidence makes you more self-conscious, and this leads to behavior that can end in self-loathing, like over-sharing or trying too hard to fit in by not being yourself. When you finally figure out how to be confident, you can...
Expectations are often discussed in a way that makes them all seem equal, and I've come to believe that that is so often at the root of relationship problems. We group expectations together and only ask whether or not to have them, and debate that singular question as though the problem with expectations lies only in either having them or not.
But as I share in Part 1 of this post, I believe the issue of expectations is far more nuanced than that. The question I believe we should be asking ourselves isn't should we have expectations or not, it's 'how do I establish healthy expectations that support mutual benefit and satisfaction?'
I believe strongly that having expectations in our relationships is not only okay, it's critical. And I explained the reasons why in Part 1. Expectations based on needs are primarily the expectations I believe we should all hold without compromise.
Are you feeling constantly let down by the people in your life? I used to face disappointment after disappointment- especially in my romantic relationships, but with friends, too. Let down after let down, I started wondering why I couldn't seem to attract the kind of people into my life who put in adequate effort, who were thoughtful and generous, who aimed to please- people like me!
I wondered if this was because I was expecting too much, or because my expectations were unrealistic or unfair, or if I was constantly disappointed because...
When I work with my clients on achieving goals, they are often astonished by how much we will break a single goal down into several micro steps that individually do not seem to add up to much, but collectively ensure progress and ultimately success. The same is true for daily habits. When performed once or occasionally they don't lead to very many big outcomes. But done consistently, however- well, prepare to rock this life, my friends.
The following list of habits likely won't be brand new to you, but I am here to remind you of their power. Research has been conducted and has demonstrated the major impact that each of them will have on your levels of fulfillment and success in life. Practicing just one of them consistently over time will repeat mega rewards, but collectively, oh man... you. cannot. fail. Mark my words. Get ALL of the 4 habits into your routine, and change the direction of your life forever.
Days come and days go. I mean, let's face it- time just flies on by. With the arrival of each new day there's a starting point that is all your own, and that starting point is determined by how you tackle the days that precede it. Are you slowly progressing toward your goals and dreams from one day to the next, or are you progressing in leaps and bounds? The difference between slowly trudging daily in the creation of your best life and rocking through like a badass can be as simple as following 4 super simple rules.
Something is on your mind and you can't stop worrying about it. It could be a problem at work, in a relationship, a health issue, money problems- whatever it is, it's consuming you. How will this turn out, you keep wondering? What should I do? What if this, and what if that? Why is this happening? What's it gonna take to figure this out? All you want is for this to be resolved already.
Expect problems and eat them for breakfast.
As sure as the night will fall after the day, so too will difficult times befall us all. After suffering through several of my own woes over the years- such as divorce, being shunned by my family, and a devastating miscarriage- I know this all too well.
Recently I've watched several of the women in my life go through some pretty tough stuff- recurring health issues and surgeries, death in the family, marital struggles, co-parenting with a narcissistic ex, infertility, divorce, and financial problems, just to name a few- and I've watched how they handle it all.
What is the relationship between selfishness and self-love? Are they the same? Do you need to be selfish to be self-loving? I share my perspective in this video.
I've found that the lack of motivation many people describe is often caused by a misunderstanding of what motivation actually is. In this video, I address one of the most common misconceptions about motivation that hold people back, and I clarify what is required for not only getting but staying motivated to achieve your goals and live your dreams.
Is it important to have a morning routine? Well that depends: do you want to have the most successful day possible? How you start each day has a tremendous impact on how successfully your entire day goes. From your mood to your mode, to how much energy you have, to how creative & productive you are, a morning routine sets the tone for your entire day- and, cumulatively, for your entire life.
Yet, as big of a game-changer as it is, it's not necessarily easy to get (and keep!) it going. Like all worthwhile pursuits, developing a solid and steady morning routine takes effort. In my own experience, I've found that the biggest struggle lies in...