Have you ever felt like you became so absorbed in your partner and your relationship with them that you began to forget who you are outside of being their significant other? Maybe you're experiencing this right now. I find it's pretty common and happens to most of us at one point or another, if not perpetually.Read More
If you've been wondering how to be confident, I've got a strategy that works.
What does it actually mean to be confident? Confidence has to do with self-assurance. Essentially, you need to believe in yourself- in your own character and abilities- to be confident. And to achieve that, you've got to know yourself and what you have to offer. Ultimately, the answer to how to be confident is to be sure of who you are.Read More
Expectations are often discussed in a way that makes them all seem equal, and I've come to believe that that is so often at the root of relationship problems. We group expectations together and only ask whether or not to have them, and debate that singular question as though the problem with expectations lies only in either having them or not.Read More
Are you feeling constantly let down by the people in your life? I used to face disappointment after disappointment- especially in my romantic relationships, but with friends, too. Let down after let down, I started wondering why I couldn't seem to attract the kind of people into my life who put in adequate effort, who were thoughtful and generous, who aimed to please- people like me!Read More
When I work with my clients on achieving goals, they are often astonished by how much we will break a single goal down into several micro steps that individually do not seem to add up to much, but collectively ensure progress and ultimately success. The same is true for daily habits. When performed once or occasionally they don't lead to very many big outcomes. But done consistently, however- well, prepare to rock this life, my friends.Read More
Days come and days go. I mean, let's face it- time just flies on by. With the arrival of each new day there's a starting point that is all your own, and that starting point is determined by how you tackle the days that precede it. Are you slowly progressing toward your goals and dreams from one day to the next, or are you progressing in leaps and bounds?Read More
Something is on your mind and you can't stop worrying about it. It could be a problem at work, in a relationship, a health issue, money problems- whatever it is, it's consuming you. How will this turn out, you keep wondering? What should I do? What if this, and what if that? Why is this happening? What's it gonna take to figure this out?Read More
As sure as the night will fall after the day, so too will difficult times befall us all. After suffering through several of my own woes over the years- such as divorce, being shunned by my family, and a devastating miscarriage- I know this all too well.Read More
I've found that the lack of motivation many people describe is often caused by a misunderstanding of what motivation actually is. In this video, I address one of the most common misconceptions about motivation that hold people back, and I clarify what is required for not only getting but staying motivated to achieve your goals and live your dreams.
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Is it important to have a morning routine? Well that depends: do you want to have the most successful day possible? How you start each day has a tremendous impact on how successfully your entire day goes. From your mood to your mode, to how much energy you have, to how creative & productive you are, a morning routine sets the tone for your entire day- and, cumulatively, for your entire life.Read More
We all need and seek advice sometimes. You're new at something and you contact experienced friends, listen to podcasts and read books for advice. You find yourself in a new situation and reach out to someone who has been there before. You really don't know what to do and could use some guidance.
But there are other times we seek advice when maybe we aren't as ignorant. I texted a friend this morning to see how her date with a guy she's been seeing went last night. Her reply was exactly what I had expected after hearing about their other dates: Not great. Got any advice?
The fact is, she already knows what she needs to do...Read More
"Without self-acceptance, self-esteem is impossible" writes Dr. Nathaniel Branden in The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem.
What is self-esteem and why does it matter? Self-esteem is the way in which one experiences themselves. A person with healthy self-esteem experiences themselves as capable of handling life's basic challenges and as being worthy of love and happiness. A person with unhealthy self-esteem experiences themselves as being incapable of handling life's difficulties and as being unworthy of joy and love.Read More
I'm no regular clairvoyant, but I've got a premonition. I'm seeing you in 2017 and let me just tell you- you are unstoppable! Seriously, you are on fire. Something has changed in you and, holy cow, just wait till you see. Here are the 17 causes of your unstoppable-ness in the coming year:
- You are beautiful inside and out, and you finally see that.
Another year is approaching its end and that can only mean one thing- everyone is thinking up goals! Or resolutions, as we like to call them at this time of year. For most of us, resolutions tend to have a similar story: they are made, they are attempted, they are abandoned. It's sad, but true.
But what if this year could be different? What if this year you knew just what to do to succeed at reaching your goal and making the progress you want to make? Well I'm here to tell you that this year you can reach your goal, and I'm going to tell you how.Read More
I’ve seen it happen time and time again- the fear of rocking the boat and disrupting the perfect harmony at the start of a relationship means you keep quiet and don’t express how you really feel or ask for what you need.
As time goes on, this obviously causes a disconnect- your partner thinks everything is going fine and you have a growing frustration developing inside due to unmet needs and unexpressed feelings. Sound familiar? Don’t beat yourself up, we’ve all done it. But at some point it’s important to realize the following things, and vow not to keep repeating this pattern anymore...Read More
Mindset- a common theme in the self-improvement realm these days. What is mindset? Mindset is the established set of attitudes you hold. Your mindset impacts not only your day-to-day successes, but your overall success in life as well.
Can you learn and change and grow, or not? How you answer this question determines whether you have a fixed or growth mindset. If you have a fixed mindset, your attitude is that you...Read More
We all have a spiritual dimension to our being. Yet we don’t all define spirituality the same way, and therefore don’t all go about satisfying our spiritual needs in the same way.
Regardless of what your personal approach to spirituality is, at the core, the essential spiritual need we all have is the same: to feel a sense of meaning in life and to find moments of complete presence, awe and gratitude. Do you agree?
I personally appreciate the following definition of what spiritual practice involves...Read More
Also known as Indian Ginseng, Ashwagandha is a lot of fun to say, but that is the tiniest benefit of all! It can also keep your mind sharp, you joints supple, your stress low, your skin radiant, and your mood elevated.
Withania Somnifera (Ashwagandha) is a medicinal plant that through clinical studies has been verified as an effective treatment for...Read More
We all spend quite a lot of time, prior to meeting our mate, thinking and talking about what we want in our perfect partner. We make lists and insist on certain characteristics, traits, and circumstances because we want someone who will love us and treat us right.
We seem to automatically see ourselves as good partners, but how many of us take the time to contemplate and list the things that make us so? How do we make sure we will live up to what that special someone we seek is searching for in another?
If you can make and keep the following 17 promises to your partner, you can rest assured...Read More