A Simple 3-Step Strategy For How to Be Confident

A Simple 3-Step Strategy For How to Be Confident

If you've been wondering how to be confident, I've got a strategy that works.

What does it actually mean to be confident? Confidence has to do with self-assurance. Essentially, you need to believe in yourself- in your own character and abilities- to be confident. And to achieve that, you've got to know yourself and what you have to offer. Ultimately, the answer to how to be confident is to be sure of who you are.

When you lack confidence it causes quite a bit of suffering. A lack of self-confidence makes you more self-conscious, and this leads to behavior that can end in self-loathing, like over-sharing or trying too hard to fit in by not being yourself. When you finally figure out how to be confident, you can...

 

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[Audio] Are your expectations ruining your relationships? Here's how to tell (Part 2)

[Audio] Are your expectations ruining your relationships? Here's how to tell (Part 2)

Expectations are often discussed in a way that makes them all seem equal, and I've come to believe that that is so often at the root of relationship problems. We group expectations together and only ask whether or not to have them, and debate that singular question as though the problem with expectations lies only in either having them or not.

But as I share in Part 1 of this post, I believe the issue of expectations is far more nuanced than that. The question I believe we should be asking ourselves isn't should we have expectations or not, it's 'how do I establish healthy expectations that support mutual benefit and satisfaction?' 

I believe strongly that having expectations in our relationships is not only okay, it's critical. And I explained the reasons why in Part 1. Expectations based on needs are primarily the expectations I believe we should all hold without compromise.

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[Audio] Are your expectations ruining your relationships? Here's how to tell (Part 1)

[Audio] Are your expectations ruining your relationships? Here's how to tell (Part 1)

Are you feeling constantly let down by the people in your life?  I used to face disappointment after disappointment- especially in my romantic relationships, but with friends, too. Let down after let down, I started wondering why I couldn't seem to attract the kind of people into my life who put in adequate effort, who were thoughtful and generous, who aimed to please- people like me! 

I wondered if this was because I was expecting too much, or because my expectations were unrealistic or unfair, or if I was constantly disappointed because...

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[Audio] 4 Simple Habits That Make a HUGE Impact on Success & Happiness

[Audio] 4 Simple Habits That Make a HUGE Impact on Success & Happiness

When I work with my clients on achieving goals, they are often astonished by how much we will break a single goal down into several micro steps that individually do not seem to add up to much, but collectively ensure progress and ultimately success. The same is true for daily habits. When performed once or occasionally they don't lead to very many big outcomes. But done consistently, however- well, prepare to rock this life, my friends.

The following list of habits likely won't be brand new to you, but I am here to remind you of their power. Research has been conducted and has demonstrated the major impact that each of them will have on your levels of fulfillment and success in life. Practicing just one of them consistently over time will repeat mega rewards, but collectively, oh man... you. cannot. fail. Mark my words. Get ALL of the 4 habits into your routine, and change the direction of your life forever.

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[Audio] 4 Rules for Owning the Heck Out of the Day

[Audio] 4 Rules for Owning the Heck Out of the Day

Days come and days go. I mean, let's face it- time just flies on by. With the arrival of each new day there's a starting point that is all your own, and that starting point is determined by how you tackle the days that precede it. Are you slowly progressing toward your goals and dreams from one day to the next, or are you progressing in leaps and bounds?  The difference between slowly trudging daily in the creation of your best life and rocking through like a badass can be as simple as following 4 super simple rules.  

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The 3-Question Exercise To Quit Obsessing About ANY Problem

The 3-Question Exercise To Quit Obsessing About ANY Problem

Something is on your mind and you can't stop worrying about it. It could be a problem at work, in a relationship, a health issue, money problems- whatever it is, it's consuming you.  How will this turn out, you keep wondering? What should I do? What if this, and what if that? Why is this happening? What's it gonna take to figure this out? All you want is for this to be resolved already.

Expect problems and eat them for breakfast.

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5 Things Smart Women Do During Hard Times

5 Things Smart Women Do During Hard Times

As sure as the night will fall after the day, so too will difficult times befall us all.  After suffering through several of my own woes over the years- such as divorce, being shunned by my family, and a devastating miscarriage- I know this all too well. 

Recently I've watched several of the women in my life go through some pretty tough stuff- recurring health issues and surgeries, death in the family, marital struggles, co-parenting with a narcissistic ex, infertility, divorce, and financial problems, just to name a few- and I've watched how they handle it all. 

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Why You Can't Stay Motivated

Why You Can't Stay Motivated

I've found that the lack of motivation many people describe is often caused by a misunderstanding of what motivation actually is.  In this video, I address one of the most common misconceptions about motivation that hold people back, and I clarify what is required for not only getting but staying motivated to achieve your goals and live your dreams. 

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The 5-Minute Morning Routine That Will Change Everything

The 5-Minute Morning Routine That Will Change Everything

Is it important to have a morning routine? Well that depends: do you want to have the most successful day possible?  How you start each day has a tremendous impact on how successfully your entire day goes. From your mood to your mode, to how much energy you have, to how creative & productive you are, a morning routine sets the tone for your entire day- and, cumulatively, for your entire life. 

Yet, as big of a game-changer as it is, it's not necessarily easy to get (and keep!) it going.  Like all worthwhile pursuits, developing a solid and steady morning routine takes effort. In my own experience, I've found that the biggest struggle lies in...

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Why You Seek Advice When You Don't Really Need It

Why You Seek Advice When You Don't Really Need It

We all need and seek advice sometimes.  You're new at something and you contact experienced friends, listen to podcasts and read books for advice.  You find yourself in a new situation and reach out to someone who has been there before.  You really don't know what to do and could use some guidance. 

But there are other times we seek advice when maybe we aren't as ignorant. I texted a friend this morning to see how her date with a guy she's been seeing went last night. Her reply was exactly what I had expected after hearing about their other dates: Not great. Got any advice?

The fact is, she already knows what she needs to do...

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[Audio] The 3 Levels of Self-Acceptance

[Audio] The 3 Levels of Self-Acceptance

"Without self-acceptance, self-esteem is impossible" writes Dr. Nathaniel Branden in The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem.

What is self-esteem and why does it matter? Self-esteem is the way in which one experiences themselves.  A person with healthy self-esteem experiences themselves as capable of handling life's basic challenges and as being worthy of love and happiness.  A person with unhealthy self-esteem experiences themselves as being incapable of handling life's difficulties and as being unworthy of joy and love. 

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17 Reasons 2017 Will Be The Best Year of Your Life

17 Reasons 2017 Will Be The Best Year of Your Life

I'm no regular clairvoyant, but I've got a premonition. I'm seeing you in 2017 and let me just tell you- you are unstoppable! Seriously, you are on fire.  Something has changed in you and, holy cow, just wait till you see. Here are the 17 causes of your unstoppable-ness in the coming year: 

  1. You are beautiful inside and out, and you finally see that.
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The Secret to Achieving Any Goal

The Secret to Achieving Any Goal

Another year is approaching its end and that can only mean one thing- everyone is thinking up goals! Or resolutions, as we like to call them at this time of year. For most of us, resolutions tend to have a similar story: they are made, they are attempted, they are abandoned. It's sad, but true.

But what if this year could be different? What if this year you knew just what to do to succeed at reaching your goal and making the progress you want to make? Well I'm here to tell you that this year you can reach your goal, and I'm going to tell you how. 

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How to Be Comfortable Asserting Your Needs in a New Relationship

How to Be Comfortable Asserting Your Needs in a New Relationship

I’ve seen it happen time and time again- the fear of rocking the boat and disrupting the perfect harmony at the start of a relationship means you keep quiet and don’t express how you really feel or ask for what you need.

As time goes on, this obviously causes a disconnect- your partner thinks everything is going fine and you have a growing frustration developing inside due to unmet needs and unexpressed feelings. Sound familiar? Don’t beat yourself up, we’ve all done it. But at some point it’s important to realize the following  things, and vow not to keep repeating this pattern anymore...

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From Stressed to Blessed- The Mindset Shift That Can Turn Your Pain into Pleasure

From Stressed to Blessed- The Mindset Shift That Can Turn Your Pain into Pleasure

Mindset- a common theme in the self-improvement realm these days. What is mindset?  Mindset is the established set of attitudes you hold. Your mindset impacts not only your day-to-day successes, but your overall success in life as well. 

Can you learn and change and grow, or not? How you answer this question determines whether you have a fixed or growth mindset. If you have a fixed mindset, your attitude is that you...

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4 Ways to Live a Spiritually Rich Life No Matter What You Believe

4 Ways to Live a Spiritually Rich Life No Matter What You Believe

We all have a spiritual dimension to our being. Yet we don’t all define spirituality the same way, and therefore don’t all go about satisfying our spiritual needs in the same way.

Regardless of what your personal approach to spirituality is, at the core, the essential spiritual need we all have is the same: to feel a sense of meaning in life and to find moments of complete presence, awe and gratitude. Do you agree?

I personally appreciate the following definition of what spiritual practice involves...

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Ashwagandha- The Herb of Youth and Vitality

Ashwagandha- The Herb of Youth and Vitality

Also known as Indian Ginseng, Ashwagandha is a lot of fun to say, but that is the tiniest benefit of all! It can also keep your mind sharp, you joints supple, your stress low, your skin radiant, and your mood elevated.

Withania Somnifera (Ashwagandha) is a medicinal plant that through clinical studies has been verified as an effective treatment for...

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The 17 Promises of Happy Love

The 17 Promises of Happy Love

We all spend quite a lot of time, prior to meeting our mate, thinking and talking about what we want in our perfect partner. We make lists and insist on certain characteristics, traits, and circumstances because we want someone who will love us and treat us right.

We seem to automatically see ourselves as good partners, but how many of us take the time to contemplate and list the things that make us so?  How do we make sure we will live up to what that special someone we seek is searching for in another?

If you can make and keep the following 17 promises to your partner, you can rest assured...

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Are You a Love Warrior? (hint: you totally are)

Are You a Love Warrior? (hint: you totally are)

Today I watched this incredible conversation between Marie Forleo and Glennon Doyle Melton. That means that today I am way more courageous than before, and today I recognize myself as a Love Warrior. Are you a woman? Love Warrior. Are you a strong, benevolent person who cares about the pain of others? Love Warrior. Tune in for more delicious insights and inspiration by clicking the link and joining the conversation between Marie and Glennon. 

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