🌿 Coaching That Gets to the Root

Stop accepting emotional scraps, reclaim your power, and enjoy the life-giving and mutually satisfying connection you deserve.

You’re pouring everything into your relationship, but it feels like you're the only one trying. You're the one who prioritizes the connection—the emotional anchor, the fixer, the giver.

But deep down, you're exhausted from being the one who:

• Initiates the important conversations

• Pushes for connection and clarity

• Does the emotional labor and makes the sacrifices

• Tries to be endlessly understanding and loyal

• Prioritizes their needs—even when yours go unmet

You pour your heart into the relationship, but still feel unseen, unappreciated, and even guilty for wanting more. Deep down, you know this isn’t how love is supposed to feel, but every time you try to talk about your needs, it ends in conflict or silence. So you push them down, again and again, just to keep the peace.

If you’re anything like I was, you haven’t just tolerated low effort—you’ve justified outright disrespect.
You focus on their good traits, tell yourself “no one’s perfect,” and keep leaning in… hoping in time they’ll realize what they have and step up.

But the more you give, the more disconnected you feel.
You’re met with mixed signals, emotional distance, or empty promises that never turn into change.

If you’re single, the pattern follows you.
You over-invest early. You give your heart.
And still—you’re ghosted, breadcrumbed, or end up in situationships.
You focus more on being chosen than you do on evaluating whether they are a good match.
You give, compromise, and tolerate too much ... and it keeps backfiring.

You’re confused, because at work this pattern thrives.
The more you give, the more you get—recognition, promotions, praise, trust.
Being dependable, proactive, and flexible makes you a top performer.

But in love?
It’s the opposite.
Because the more you give, the more the imbalance grows.
You become the one holding the relationship together while feeling unseen, unsupported, and emotionally alone.

Not because you're doing anything wrong…
But because you’re trying to earn love the way you’ve learned to earn success—through performance.

You don’t need another podcast telling you to “use I-statements” or “adjust your expectations.”
And you definitely don’t need to keep strategizing on how to get your partner to change—because pouring energy into what you can’t
control only deepens the exhaustion and powerlessness.

What you do need is to get to the root of why you keep ending up in one-sided dynamics—and rewire how you relate from the inside out.

Let’s be honest: a lot of the common advice out there wasn’t made for people like you.

When you're someone who gives your all to love—your time, your heart, your effort—being told “you get out what you put in” only reinforces
the painful belief that you're not doing enough… even when you're already doing everything.

But the problem isn't that you're not trying hard enough.
It's that you’ve been unconsciously abandoning yourself to keep the relationship alive.

The answer isn’t to keep giving more of what’s already being undervalued.
It’s to start giving in a way that honors you, too—aligned, intentional, and rooted in self-respect.

Because only from that place do relationships begin to shift.
And only from that place will love finally feel like love.

Here’s the hard truth—followed by good news:
The quality of your relationships will always mirror the quality of the relationship you have with yourself.

The good news?
When you deal with the root of the problem at the subconscious level, and strengthen the bond you have
with yourself—honoring your needs, trusting your voice, and standing in your worth—your relationships
begin to reflect that same energy. Misaligned dynamics lose their grip.

People either rise to meet the new standard—or they naturally fall away. Unbalanced dynamics simply can’t survive.

You’re not here to beg for love.
You’re here to experience the kind of love that meets you where you are.

Where you are is:
You want to be adored, supported, cherished, and emotionally fulfilled.
You have a lot to give—and you’re happy to give it.
But you also want to be loved in return. Deeply. Consistently. Freely.

That kind of love becomes available when you stop abandoning yourself to keep
the connection and start showing up in a new way—the way I’ll guide you to.

(If you haven’t downloaded and completed my No More Unmet Needs Workbook yet, it’s the perfect place to start— because when you’re fully owning what you need with clarity and conviction, one-sided dynamics simply can’t persist in your life.)

I've Been Where You Are

For years, I was the one trying to get my partners to really see me, hear me, choose me, and cherish me.
I truly believed I was standing up for myself, fighting for the relationship, advocating for what I needed.

But the truth is, I was abandoning myself and I didn’t even realize it.

I poured everything I had into my relationships: my energy, my love, my time, my soul.
And somehow, I still ended up feeling lonelier than ever.

It was like living in a constant state of waiting.
Waiting for them to make space for me.
Waiting for them to show up.
Waiting for them to recognize my worth.
Waiting to finally feel chosen.

Over-functioning didn’t bring me closer. It brought me to my knees.
I felt invisible—even lying next to someone I loved with my whole heart.

Eventually, I stopped trying to convince others to value me and started asking why I didn’t.

Then things massively shifted.
I discovered Alignment work. That’s what changed everything.

I stopped performing for love and started living from it.
My confidence grew. I began to trust myself. I held myself in higher regard.
I stopped abandoning myself—and so did the people around me.

Over the past 20 years, I tried everything. Therapy, counseling, coaching, workshops. I read every book,
listened to every podcast, followed every expert. I was doing so much to try to heal myself and my relationships.

But no matter how hard I tried, the same painful patterns kept playing out.

Because without alignment, nothing truly sticks.
You can collect all the insights in the world, but if you don’t change
the relationship you have with yourself, at the subconscious level,
you’ll keep getting pulled back into the same exhausting dynamics.

That’s what freed me.
And it’s what will get you where you want to go—if you're willing to choose it.

Who I Work With

I support individuals who are carrying the emotional weight of their relationships, often with partners who aren’t
willing or ready to do the work alongside them.

Some of my clients are discerning whether their current relationship can truly meet their needs. Others want to show
up with clarity, confidence, and self-trust rather than fear, anxiety, or old attachment wounds. Some are preparing
themselves to feel grounded, secure, and ready when a beautifully aligned relationship comes into their lives.

This work is for those who are ready to stop over-functioning and start honoring themselves in love.

What You’ve Been Feeling Isn’t Random—It’s Misalignment

Misalignment is what happens when your choices go against your deepest truth and self-worth, leaving you confused, resentful, and emotionally exhausted.

If you’re feeling:

Lonely — while carrying the emotional weight of the relationship
Invisible — despite showing up again and again
Resentful — but still holding on to hope for change
Exhausted — from being the one holding it all together
Confused — because they say they love you but aren’t showing it

Hear this:
It’s not that you’re doing anything wrong.
You’re doing what you’ve been conditioned to do…

You’ve been trying to earn love by overgiving, overexplaining, overperforming,
believing that if you just do enough, prove enough, hold on long enough…
you’ll finally feel valued and loved.

But real love doesn’t have to be earned like that.
It’s received when you start choosing yourself.
The resentment, confusion, and drain you’re feeling is a signal.

It’s time to stop trying to get them to see, hear and value you— and realign.

What Alignment Feels Like

After doing this work, my clients walk away feeling:

• Clear in who they are and what they need

• Confident setting boundaries and following through with love

• Steady in their self-worth—even during conflict or disappointment

• Free from the pressure to over-function, perform, or prove

• At peace—because they trust themselves

• Adored—because they’re anchored in self-respect and self-honoring choices

“I often joke that there was the Stephanie before Dara and the Stephanie after. I like the after me so much more. I’m no longer afraid to say what I want and ask for what I need. Because of Dara, I have strong standards and boundaries. I’ve never had this much confidence in myself before and I’m very grateful." —Stephanie, Toronto

Why This Work Is Different

This isn’t communication hacks or behavior tweaks.
It’s a complete realignment with who you are, what you deserve, and how you allow yourself to be loved.

Together, we’ll:

• Unpack the beliefs and patterns that keep you giving more and getting less

• Bring compassion to the parts of you that learned to over-function for love

• Rebuild your way of relating—based on truth, trust, and emotional maturity

This Is for You If…

• You have an anxious attachment style and want to feel secure

• You’re ready to stop over-functioning and start honoring your needs

• You’re willing to face your patterns with compassion

• You’re done settling for crumbs and are calling in mutual, grounded love

If any of this resonates, you're not just ready for change. You're ready for alignment.
And this work will meet you there.

This Isn’t for You If…

• You’re looking for a quick fix without doing the inner work

• You’re not ready to take responsibility for your beliefs or patterns

• You’re still waiting for someone else to change so you can finally feel better

This work takes courage. But if you’re ready to grow, I’ll meet you exactly where you are.

“Dara provides a very thought-provoking approach utilizing her personal journey and mixing in a variety of experts and other approaches to create a very personalized path for each client. From her discussions, homework, mind exercises, podcasts, YouTube videos, books and articles, they seamlessly work together to rewire your brain to be the best version of yourself.” —Victor, Boston

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Choose the Path That’s Right for You…

The Insight Email – $77

Need clarity, but don’t have the time or capacity for a live session? The Insight Email is a personalized, written coaching experience that meets you right where you are. You’ll share what you’re struggling with, and I’ll respond with a thoughtful, tailored message offering perspective, guidance, and practical steps based on what I see. It’s the perfect option if you’re feeling uncertain, overwhelmed, or just want to dip your toe into this work before committing to something deeper. No scheduling required. Just compassionate, insightful support delivered directly to your inbox.

🕊️ Please note: I only offer a limited number of Insight Emails each month to ensure every response receives the depth and presence it deserves.
If the Insight Email option on the form is there, spots are available — if not, please check back soon.

“I was in a loop of feeling confident about my decision to leave my husband versus feeling doubtful; I couldn't figure out why I was going back and forth. After giving Dara the background of what brought me to this point, she sent me a very detailed, thoughtful email explaining why I felt confused. Dara is the wise woman I was looking for; as I read her email to me I kept thinking that she is so knowing; she certainly knows what she's talking about. I thought I had identified and addressed my limiting beliefs but Dara identified limiting beliefs that I didn't realize I had. Once she brought them to light, I realized why I felt "stuck". She also provided a few simple exercises for me to do to help me reinforce the path I knew I needed to take. All of this and more in her email. I recommend you take the time to take advantage of this unique service.”
—Janice, Ontario

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The Clarity Call – $147 (60 minutes)

If you're not sure what kind of support you need or whether or not my program is the right fit, this 60-minute call is for you. We'll talk through what’s been weighing on you, explore the root dynamics behind your current challenges, and clarify your next best steps forward, whether that's a custom coaching package or the 8-week Total Alignment Journey. You’ll leave this session with a deeper understanding of what’s keeping you stuck in painful patterns, what you truly want, what actions you can take immediately, and what kind of support will help you get the results you ultimately want and deserve. And if you choose to move forward with the Total Alignment Journey, your full $147 will be credited toward the program.

“I reached out to Dara looking for advice on new ways to communicate my needs in my relationship. She was so understanding and I felt so comfortable opening up to her about the reality of my relationship and our current challenges. Dara gave me actionable steps and valuable insights that gave me a new perspective in my relationship. She helped me see things in a new light and allowed me to realize certain things that I could improve on my part that would help move my relationship in the right direction. I felt so much better after talking to her and left our session equipped with communication strategies that have already helped improve my relationship with my husband. Thank you, Dara!” —Nikki, Italy

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The Total Alignment Journey – $5,000

This signature 8-week, 1:1 coaching experience is for those who are tired of carrying the emotional weight in their relationships and are ready to break the cycle of one-sided dynamics to finally experience the mutual, fulfilling connection they’ve been craving.

Become the version of yourself who is grounded in deep self-respect—clear on your needs, unapologetic about your standards, and fully committed to your non-negotiables. Take a moment to picture what it would feel like to embody that kind of grounded power.

It’s magnetic, right?

This version of you doesn’t chase or perform for love—you attract it by standing firmly in your truth. You communicate clearly, trust your intuition, and no longer tolerate dynamics that leave you depleted, confused, or unseen.

And you’ll get there in just 8 weeks, not the months or years it often takes to make this kind of transformation.

If that’s the experience you want, the Total Alignment Journey is your path to it.

Over the course of 8 weeks, you’ll receive:

• One 90-minute private coaching session per week (8 total)

• A written lesson each week explaining the key alignment principle we’re working with

• Daily integration assignments (5–30 minutes) to help you implement the week’s theme

• Personalized guidance and reflections based on your unique story, goals, and patterns

• Support in between sessions via email and voice notes to keep you focused and committed

• Clarity on your needs, standards, and boundaries—and the courage to honor them

• Tools to shift your inner dialogue so you stop second-guessing and start self-trusting

• A full realignment in how you relate to yourself and others, rooted in truth, not fear

This is the work that breaks the cycle for good. You’ll stop performing for love and start building the kind of steady, mutual connection that only becomes possible when you’re living from your worth instead of your wounding. I’ll show you exactly how to do that.

“She had an unbelievable ability to allow me to fully open up, reflect on difficult prior traumas, dive deep into root causes, and provide the tools and guidance necessary to evolve those archaic, inhibiting, and self-destructive pathways of thinking and corresponding actions. Dara has a healing, guiding, and trusting energy about her where you can't help but feel comfortable, open, and thankful in her presence. I wouldn't use this phrase lightly, but working with her has genuinely and truly changed my life and allowed me to accept and love myself like I never thought possible. I will take everything she taught me and continue to practice and embody it in my daily life, as it has made me a happier, calmer, and more purposeful person because of it. It's difficult to explain the extent of how impactful my time was with her, but I feel like a fundamentally more centered and better person for it. Thank you for everything, Dara!” —Neal, NYC

“Dara helped me in a way I had not considered would be possible.” —Marijke, France

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💛 A Note from Me to You

You’re not here by accident.

If something in your life or relationships feels off, it’s because you’re being called back into alignment.
I know what it’s like to feel lost, unloved, and unsure of yourself, even while looking like you “have it all together.”
But I also know the power of choosing yourself—again and again—until your life begins to reflect that choice.

This is the work. This is the way. And I’d be honored to walk it with you.

— Dara

Ready to Begin?

Start where you are.
Request your Insight Email or let’s talk it through and find the best path forward. If you decide to move forward with the Total Alignment Journey after your Clarity Call, your $147 will be fully credited toward your enrollment.

You don’t have to keep carrying this alone. Let’s get you back into alignment—so you can stop proving your worth, and start honoring it instead.

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“Don't compromise yourself. You're all you've got.”
— Janis Joplin

“Dara is rare. I’m not new to coaching and I’m extremely selective with whom I choose to invest my time and money. After working with Dara, I feel very optimistic about my success in future relationships.”

—Wendy, D.C.

FAQs

Is the Total Alignment Journey customized to my situation?

Yes! The Total Alignment program follows an 8-aspect framework, but the way we apply it is completely personal to you. These eight aspects serve as guiding principles rather than a rigid curriculum—each week, we’ll use them as lenses to explore your unique situation, whether you're navigating relationship struggles, rebuilding after a breakup, questioning whether to stay or leave, struggling with self-esteem, feeling unfulfilled, or seeking more purpose and direction.

No two journeys look the same because no two people are the same. Our work together will help you uncover what’s keeping you stuck, gain clarity on what you truly need and want, and make aligned choices that move you toward greater confidence, peace, and fulfillment.

By the end of our time together, you won’t just have processed what you’re going through you’ll have the tools, self-trust, and clarity to create a life that truly feels like yours.

If you have any other questions about how this applies to you, feel free to reach out—I’m happy to help!

Do you work with couples?

I work exclusively with individuals. My specialty is supporting those who are over-functioning in their relationships—often with partners who aren't willing or ready to do the inner work themselves.

This approach allows us to focus fully on you—your patterns, your needs, and your alignment—so you can create powerful shifts, whether or not your partner chooses to change. Many clients find that doing this work individually leads to surprising and meaningful changes in their relationships, even without couples counseling.

If you're carrying the emotional weight of your relationship and want to break the cycle, this work is for you.