🌿 Self-abandonment ends here. Alignment begins now.
The Question That Brought You Here
“Am I waiting for change that’s never coming…or is there hope?”
You’ve had the conversations.
You’ve been patient, direct, flexible.
You’ve begged, explained, negotiated, compromised.
You’ve even broken down and sobbed.
And you’re exhausted.
Exhausted from waiting.
Exhausted from giving more and getting less.
Exhausted from wondering—am I asking too much, or not giving enough?
You’re resentful because you’ve carried the weight.
Confused because there is love, but no follow-through.
Lonely because even with someone beside you, you feel unseen and alone.
The Wake-Up Call
I have good news and bad news.
The bad news: You’ve been asking the wrong questions.
The good news: Once you ask the right ones, everything changes.
Chronic unmet needs are not the problem—they’re the symptom.
They’re a signal that you’re misaligned with your deepest truth and self-worth.
Because when you’re fully aligned, you don’t beg anyone to change.
You don’t chase. You don’t negotiate for scraps.
You stop abandoning yourself to stay connected to others.
You stop performing for love, and start living from it.
And it’s that grounded, aligned energy that speaks louder than words—clearly showing others what you will and will not accept.
This is the part where most people stop reading.
Because it’s easier to blame the other person than face the hard truth:
Until you fully align with your own needs, the change you’re hoping for will not come.
And you’ll keep trying to convince someone to give you what you need because you aren’t fully confident in what you require—
and therefore you’re not truly committed to having what you need.
But if you're still reading, you’re not most people.
You’re ready to end the cycle—and finally let real love in.
And I can show you how.
I’ve Been Where You Are
For decades, I fought to be loved by abandoning myself.
I poured everything into relationships—my energy, my time, my devotion—and ended up feeling lonelier than ever.
I believed fighting for my needs was “standing up for myself” when really, I was trying to make someone value me while I was devaluing myself.
I was stuck in waiting.
Waiting to be seen.
Waiting to be prioritized.
Waiting for scraps of attention.
Until I realized: It was me who needed to change. I’m who I was waiting for.
The day I chose Authentic Alignment—living from my worth, my needs, my truth—is when things finally shifted.
One-sided dynamics couldn’t survive in that energy. Relationships either aligned—or fell away.
And for the first time, I felt whole.
What Alignment Really Means
Authentic Alignment isn’t a script.
It’s not a hack.
It’s not “communication tips” or “relationship tricks.”
It is a rebellion.
A devotion.
A homecoming.
It’s the end of the ride-or-die propaganda that taught us loyalty means losing ourselves.
It’s the end of the generational lie that love is earned through suffering and sacrifice.
It’s the end of crumbs and compromises that cost us our energy and peace.
Alignment means this:
No more scraps. Only wholeness.
No more begging. Only self-honor.
No more waiting. Only choosing.
Authentic Alignment is what freed me to let real love in.
And it’s what will free you—if you’re ready to choose it.
What You’ve Been Feeling Is Misalignment
If you’re:
Lonely while carrying the emotional weight
Invisible despite showing up again and again
Resentful but still hoping things will change
Confused because they say “I love you” but don’t show it
Exhausted from holding it all together
Hear this: You’re not broken. You’re conditioned.
And your emotional distress and exhaustion is actually your signal.
It’s your soul saying: This ends here.
What Alignment Feels Like
After doing this work, my clients walk away feeling:
Clear in who they are and what they need
Steady in their self-worth and confident setting boundaries
Free from the pressure to over-function, perform, or prove
At peace because they trust themselves completely
Adored because they’re anchored in self-honoring choices
This is the revolution of the self returning to itself.
“Dara helped me to understand why I am a people pleaser who is anxiously attached to others. She helped me to understand that I was controlling the world around me… so I could feel happy. However, after giving so much of myself away, I could see that I was unhappy, exhausted, and empty with nothing else to give… I love how she helped me to see what I really needed.” —Beth, CO
Who This Work Is For
I work with women and men who have been carrying the emotional weight of one-sided relationships for too long.
Those who’ve been conditioned to earn love, endure neglect, suffer in silence, and settle for scraps.
Some are deciding if their current relationship can truly meet their needs.
Some want to feel grounded and secure before inviting love in again.
Some are simply done abandoning themselves and ready to live aligned.
Why This Work Is Different
Because this isn’t about fixing somebody else.
It’s about reclaiming yourself.
We’ll:
Unpack the beliefs that conditioned you to self-abandon
Bring compassion to the parts of you that fawned for love
Rebuild your way of relating—rooted in truth, self-trust, and alignment
No more waiting for them to change.
No more bargaining for respect.
No more sacrificing your soul for connection.
This is where self-abandonment ends and Authentic Alignment begins.
The Invitation
This work takes courage.
But if you’re ready to turn against scraps, settling, and self-betrayal—
If you’re ready to turn toward truth, dignity, and real connection—
If you’re ready to walk the path of alignment,
I’ll guide you there.
And your life and relationships will never be the same.
“I was in the midst of going through a separation with an imminent divorce. At first, I thought that the relationship was salvageable, but over time and with the help of Dara, I realized that my wanting to stay in the relationship was for the wrong reasons and that I needed to work on myself. Over the course of six-months and twice a week sessions with Dara, unbeknownst to me, I started a journey of self-discovery and empowerment of myself. Something I never would've thought I needed when I started with Dara. Although the relationship wasn't saved, the relationship with myself was discovered and that has been the biggest difference.” —Victor, Boston
👉 Explore Coaching Options Below
Choose the Path That’s Right for You…
The Insight Email – $77
Need clarity, but don’t have the time or capacity for a live session? The Insight Email is a personalized, written coaching experience that meets you right where you are. You’ll share what you’re struggling with, and I’ll respond with a thoughtful, tailored message offering perspective, guidance, and practical steps based on what I see. It’s the perfect option if you’re feeling uncertain, overwhelmed, or just want to dip your toe into this work before committing to something deeper. No scheduling required. Just compassionate, insightful support delivered directly to your inbox.
🕊️ Please note: I only offer a limited number of Insight Emails each month to ensure every response receives the depth and presence it deserves.
If the Insight Email option on the form is there, spots are available — if not, please check back soon.
“I was in a loop of feeling confident about my decision to leave my husband versus feeling doubtful; I couldn't figure out why I was going back and forth. After giving Dara the background of what brought me to this point, she sent me a very detailed, thoughtful email explaining why I felt confused. Dara is the wise woman I was looking for; as I read her email to me I kept thinking that she is so knowing; she certainly knows what she's talking about. I thought I had identified and addressed my limiting beliefs but Dara identified limiting beliefs that I didn't realize I had. Once she brought them to light, I realized why I felt "stuck". She also provided a few simple exercises for me to do to help me reinforce the path I knew I needed to take. All of this and more in her email. I recommend you take the time to take advantage of this unique service.”
—Janice, Ontario
The Clarity Call – $147 (60 minutes)
If you’d like to talk through your situation and receive honest, professional insight—or if you're unsure what kind of support you need or whether my program is the right fit—this 60-minute call is designed for you. We'll talk through what’s been weighing on you, explore the root dynamics behind your current challenges, and clarify your next best steps forward. You’ll leave this session with a deeper understanding of what’s keeping you stuck in painful patterns, what you truly want, what actions you can take immediately, and what kind of support will help you get the results you ultimately want and deserve. And if you choose to move forward with a custom coaching program or the Total Alignment Journey, your full $147 will be credited toward the program.
“I reached out to Dara looking for advice on new ways to communicate my needs in my relationship. She was so understanding and I felt so comfortable opening up to her about the reality of my relationship and our current challenges. Dara gave me actionable steps and valuable insights that gave me a new perspective in my relationship. She helped me see things in a new light and allowed me to realize certain things that I could improve on my part that would help move my relationship in the right direction. I felt so much better after talking to her and left our session equipped with strategies that have already helped improve my relationship with my husband. Thank you, Dara!” —Nikki, Italy
The Total Alignment Journey – $2,400
*Last day to enroll for 2025 is October 15th.
This signature 8-week, 1:1 coaching experience is for those who are done carrying the emotional weight in their relationships and ready to end the cycle of one-sided dynamics for good.
It’s your path to the mutual, life-giving connection you’ve been craving.
Over 8 weeks, you’ll become the version of yourself who is still loving and generous but also grounded in deep self-respect—clear on your needs, unapologetic about your standards, and fully devoted to your non-negotiables.
Picture this: you, rooted in your worth.
✨ No more chasing. No more convincing. No more performing for love.
✨ You create aligned relationships by standing firmly in your truth.
✨ You speak clearly, trust your intuition, and walk away from what depletes you without guilt.
This version of you is magnetic. And you don’t have to wait years for that transformation.
In just 8 weeks, you can break patterns that have held you back for decades.
What You’ll Receive
One 90-minute private coaching session per week (8 total)
A written lesson each week explaining the key alignment principle we’re working with
Daily integration assignments (5–30 minutes) to help you embody the week’s theme
Personalized guidance and reflections based on your unique story, goals, and patterns
Between-session support via email and voice notes to keep you focused and committed
Crystal clarity on your needs, standards, and boundaries—and the courage to honor them
Tools to shift your inner dialogue so you stop second-guessing and start trusting yourself
A complete realignment in how you relate to yourself and others—rooted in truth, not fear
What This Journey Makes Possible
This is the work that breaks the cycle.
You’ll stop performing for love.
You’ll stop settling for scraps.
And you’ll start creating the kind of steady, mutual connection that only becomes possible when you’re living from your worth instead of your wounding.
The Total Alignment Journey isn’t just coaching. It’s a homecoming. It’s the end of self-abandonment—and the beginning of everything you’ve been waiting for.
“She had an unbelievable ability to allow me to fully open up, reflect on difficult prior traumas, dive deep into root causes, and provide the tools and guidance necessary to evolve those archaic, inhibiting, and self-destructive pathways of thinking and corresponding actions. Dara has a healing, guiding, and trusting energy about her where you can't help but feel comfortable, open, and thankful in her presence. I wouldn't use this phrase lightly, but working with her has genuinely and truly changed my life and allowed me to accept and love myself like I never thought possible. I will take everything she taught me and continue to practice and embody it in my daily life, as it has made me a happier, calmer, and more purposeful person because of it. It's difficult to explain the extent of how impactful my time was with her, but I feel like a fundamentally more centered and better person for it. Thank you for everything, Dara!” —Neal, NYC
“Dara helped me in a way I had not considered would be possible.” —Marijke, France
💛 A Note from Me to You
You’re not here by accident.
If something in your life or relationships feels off, it isn’t because you’re broken. It’s because you’re being called back into alignment.
I know what it’s like to look like you “have it all together” while quietly feeling lost, unseen, and unloved. I know the ache of over-giving and still wondering if it will ever be enough.
But I also know the power of choosing yourself—again and again—until your life and relationships begin to rise up and reflect that choice.
This isn’t just about love. It’s about truth. About refusing scraps, ending self-abandonment, and finally coming home to yourself.
This is the work. This is the way. And I would be honored to walk it with you.
— Dara
Ready to Begin?
Start where you are.
Request your Insight Email or let’s talk it through and find the best path forward. If you decide to move forward with the Total Alignment Journey after your Clarity Call, your $147 will be fully credited toward your enrollment.
You don’t have to keep carrying this alone. Let’s get you back into alignment—so you can stop proving your worth, and start honoring it instead.
👉 Start with a Clarity Call
“Don't compromise yourself. You're all you've got.”
— Janis Joplin
“Dara equipped me with what I needed to reorient myself towards the kind of relationship I could get more out of, and the kind of self I could be more proud of.”
—Cullen, NYC
“Dara is rare. I’m not new to coaching and I’m extremely selective with whom I choose to invest my time and money. After working with Dara, I feel very optimistic about my success in future relationships.”
—Wendy, D.C.
FAQs
Is the Total Alignment Journey customized to my situation?
Yes! The Total Alignment program follows an 8-aspect framework, but the way we apply it is completely personal to you. These eight aspects serve as guiding principles rather than a rigid curriculum—each week, we’ll use them as lenses to explore your unique situation, whether you're navigating relationship struggles, rebuilding after a breakup, questioning whether to stay or leave, struggling with self-esteem, feeling unfulfilled, or seeking more purpose and direction.
No two journeys look the same because no two people are the same. Our work together will help you uncover what’s keeping you stuck, gain clarity on what you truly need and want, and make aligned choices that move you toward greater confidence, peace, and fulfillment.
By the end of our time together, you won’t just have processed what you’re going through you’ll have the tools, self-trust, and clarity to create a life that truly feels like yours.
If you have any other questions about how this applies to you, feel free to reach out—I’m happy to help!
Do you work with couples?
I currently work exclusively with individuals. My specialty is supporting those who are over-functioning in their relationships—often with partners who aren't willing or ready to do the inner work themselves.
This approach allows us to focus fully on you—your patterns, your needs, and your alignment—so you can create powerful shifts, whether or not your partner chooses to change. Many clients find that doing this work individually leads to surprising and meaningful changes in their relationships, even without couples counseling.
If you're carrying the emotional weight of your relationship and want to break the cycle, this work is for you.