🌿 Coaching That Gets to the Root

You're reliable, generous, empathic…and emotionally starving.

You’re the one who goes all in and holds it all together. The emotional anchor. The fixer. The giver. The one who’s endlessly understanding and always shows up, no matter how tired, hurt, or unseen you feel.

And deep down, you’re exhausted from being the one who:

• Initiates all the important conversations

• Pushes for more time, connection, and clarity

• Does the emotional labor and self-work

• Makes the compromises and sacrifices

• Plans the thoughtful gestures

• Tries to be endlessly understanding

• Prioritizes the relationship, even at your own expense

• Stays loyal and committed, even when your needs aren’t being met

If you’re anything like me, you haven’t just tolerated low effort and neglect, you’ve justified outright disrespect, focusing on their good qualities and telling yourself, ‘no one’s perfect’. So you’re giving 110%, but it’s not being reciprocated. Instead of feeling close and secure, you feel neglected, dismissed, or guilty for even wanting more. You keep leaning in, hoping it will finally bring you closer…But the harder you try, the more disconnected you feel.

You’re met with inconsistency. Words that don’t match actions. Emotional distance. Or a partner who says they’re unsure about you.

And if you’re single, the same pattern shows up. You pour your heart and effort into early connections only to be ghosted, breadcrumbed, or passed over after the first or second date.

You’re over-functioning, over-explaining, and over-extending yourself to try and make it work. And it keeps backfiring.

You don’t need another podcast telling you to use “I” statements, stay positive, or give it time. You need clarity. You need real support.
And you need someone who truly understands the deeper patterns pulling you into one-sided dynamics and emotional burnout.

Because here’s the truth: You’re not here to beg for love. You’re here to experience the kind of love that meets you where you are.

And that starts by becoming someone who is so deeply anchored in their own self-worth that one-sided dynamics can no longer survive in your life.
Because the quality of your relationships will always mirror the quality of the relationship you have with yourself.

When you stop abandoning yourself to preserve connection, everything changes.
Your relationships shift.
Your voice strengthens.
Your peace returns.

You start living from your worth instead of your wounding.

It’s not your fault you learned to over-function. But it is your time to break the pattern for good.

I've Been Where You Are

For years, I tried to “love myself.” I read the books. I repeated the affirmations. But when it mattered most—inside my relationships—I still abandoned myself.

I over-gave to feel wanted. I ignored my needs to avoid conflict. I shaped myself into someone more palatable, just to feel chosen. I over-compensated anytime someone was displeased with me. And when that didn’t work, I withdrew, criticized, or shut down out of pain.

No matter what I did—or how hard I tried—I stayed stuck in the same painful, one-sided dynamics.

I felt defeated. Frustrated. Resentful. Alone.

Eventually, after countless attempts to convince my partner that I mattered too, that my needs were valid and that real relationships require mutual effort, I realized the shift wasn’t going to come from them.

It had to start with me.

I had to understand what in me kept recreating these painful patterns. If I wanted my connections to feel different on the outside, I had to be willing to look within.

That’s when everything began to change.

Authentic Alignment was the catalyst.

Every relationship needs structure to thrive, including the one you have with yourself. When I realigned with my own values, need and standards,
I stopped investing energy into people and patterns that couldn’t nourish me back. I stopped performing for love.

I reclaimed my power. And with it, the ability to create real, lasting change in my life and relationships.

What You’ve Been Feeling Isn’t Random—It’s Misalignment

If you’re feeling:

• Lonely — while carrying the emotional weight of the relationship

• Invisible — despite doing everything you can to show your love

• Resentful — but still holding onto hope it will change

• Exhausted — from constantly explaining and fighting for your needs

• Confused — because no matter how much you give, you still don’t feel secure or seen

Then hear this: You’re not too much. You’re just doing too much without giving yourself permission to receive, rest, or be real.

Your needs aren’t the problem. Abandoning yourself to earn love is.

I’ll help you break that pattern by shifting how you think, feel, and show up in your relationships so you can finally create the kind of steady, mutual connection you’ve been craving but haven’t known how to build.

What Alignment Feels Like

After doing this work, my clients walk away feeling:

• Clear and grounded in who they are and what they need

• Confident setting boundaries and following through with love

• Steady in their self-worth, even when connection feels uncertain or disappointing

• Free from the pressure to over-explain, over-function, or earn love through performance

• At peace because they trust themselves to choose what honors them, even when it’s hard

• Adored in their relationships because they’re anchored in self-respect and a refusal to abandon themselves

"Dara has a healing, guiding, and trusting energy that makes you feel comfortable, open, and thankful in her presence. Working with her has genuinely changed my life, allowing me to accept and love myself like never before." —Neal, NY

Why This Work Is Different

This isn’t about communication tips or quick fixes. It’s not about changing your partner, playing games, or trying harder to make it work.

This is about healing at the root, so you can create and sustain the kind of connection that feels mutual, fulfilling, and actually fun to be in.

Together, we’ll:

• Uncover the patterns that keep you giving more and receiving less

• Bring awareness to the parts of you that were taught to over-function for love

• Build a new way of relating, rooted in self-trust, truth, and emotional integrity

This isn’t surface-level growth. It’s deep realignment, so you stop contorting yourself for love and start showing up as the version of you who knows you deserve it.

This Is for You If…

• You’re ready to stop over-functioning and start honoring your own needs without guilt

• You’re willing to face your patterns with honesty and self-compassion—not shame

• You’re done chasing clarity from others and want to build unshakable clarity within yourself

• You’re ready to speak your truth, set aligned standards, and stop settling for crumbs

• You’re no longer available for one-sided dynamics. You’re calling in balanced, emotionally mature connection

If any of this resonates, you're not just ready for change. You're ready for alignment.
And this work will meet you there.

This Isn’t for You If…

• You’re looking for a quick fix without doing the inner work

• You’re not ready to take responsibility for your beliefs or patterns

• You’re still waiting for someone else to change so you can finally feel better

This work takes courage. But if you’re ready to grow, I’ll meet you exactly where you are.

👉 Explore Coaching Options Below

Choose the Path That’s Right for You…

The Insight Email – $49

Need clarity, but don’t have the time or capacity for a live session? The Insight Email is a personalized, written coaching experience that meets you right where you are. You’ll share what you’re struggling with, and I’ll respond with a thoughtful, tailored message offering perspective, guidance, and practical steps based on what I see. It’s the perfect option if you’re feeling uncertain, overwhelmed, or just want to dip your toe into this work before committing to something deeper. No scheduling required. Just compassionate, insightful support delivered directly to your inbox.

“I was in a loop of feeling confident about my decision to leave my husband versus feeling doubtful; I couldn't figure out why I was going back and forth. After giving Dara the background of what brought me to this point, she sent me a very detailed, thoughtful email explaining why I felt confused. Dara is the wise woman I was looking for; as I read her email to me I kept thinking that she is so knowing; she certainly knows what she's talking about. I thought I had identified and addressed my limiting beliefs but Dara identified limiting beliefs that I didn't realize I had. Once she brought them to light, I realized why I felt "stuck". She also provided a few simple exercises for me to do to help me reinforce the path I knew I needed to take. All of this and more in her email. I recommend you take the time to take advantage of this unique service.”
—Janice, Ontario

👉 Request an Insight Email

The Clarity Call – $97 (45 minutes)

If you're not sure what kind of support you need or whether or not my program is the right fit, this 45-minute call is for you. We'll talk through what’s been weighing on you, explore the root dynamics behind your current challenges, and clarify your next best steps forward, whether that's a custom coaching package or the 8-week Total Alignment Journey. You’ll leave this session with a deeper understanding of what’s keeping you stuck in painful patterns, what you truly want, what actions you can take immediately, and what kind of support will help you get the results you ultimately want and deserve. And if you choose to move forward with the Total Alignment Journey, your full $97 will be credited toward the program.

“I reached out to Dara looking for advice on new ways to communicate my needs in my relationship. She was so understanding and I felt so comfortable opening up to her about the reality of my relationship and our current challenges. Dara gave me actionable steps and valuable insights that gave me a new perspective in my relationship. She helped me see things in a new light and allowed me to realize certain things that I could improve on my part that would help move my relationship in the right direction. I felt so much better after talking to her and left our session equipped with communication strategies that have already helped improve my relationship with my husband. Thank you, Dara!” —Nikki, Italy

👉 Book a Clarity Call

The Total Alignment Journey – 8-Week Coaching Program

This signature 1:1 coaching experience is for those who are ready to stop over-functioning, abandon one-sided relationships, and finally live in alignment with their truth.

Over the course of 8 weeks, you’ll receive:

• One 90-minute private coaching session per week (8 total)

• A written lesson each week explaining the key alignment principle we’re working with

• Daily integration assignments (5–30 minutes) to help you implement the week’s theme

• Personalized guidance and reflections based on your unique story, goals, and patterns

• Support in between sessions via email or voice notes to keep you focused and grounded

• Clarity on your needs, standards, and boundaries—and the confidence to honor them

• Tools to shift your inner dialogue so you stop second-guessing and start self-trusting

• A full realignment in how you relate to yourself and others, rooted in truth, not fear

This is the work that breaks the cycle for good. You’ll stop performing for love and start building the kind of steady, mutual connection that only becomes possible when you’re living from your worth instead of your wounding.

💛 A Note from Me to You

You’re not here by accident.

If something in your life or relationships feels off, it’s because you’re being called back into alignment.
I know what it’s like to feel lost, unloved, and unsure of yourself, even while looking like you “have it all together.”
But I also know the power of choosing yourself—again and again—until your life begins to reflect that choice.

This is the work. This is the way. And I’d be honored to walk it with you.

— Dara

Ready to Begin?

Start where you are.
Request your Insight Email or let’s talk it through and find the best path forward. If you decide to move forward with the Total Alignment Journey after your Clarity Call, your $97 will be fully credited toward your enrollment.

You don’t have to keep carrying this alone. Let’s get you back into alignment—so you can stop proving your worth, and start honoring it instead.

👉 Start with a Clarity Call

“Don't compromise yourself. You're all you've got.”
— Janis Joplin

“Dara is rare. I’m not new to coaching and I’m extremely selective with whom I choose to invest my time and money. After working with Dara, I feel very optimistic about my success in future relationships.”

—Wendy, D.C.

FAQs

Is the Total Alignment Journey customized to my situation?

Yes! The Total Alignment program follows an 8-aspect framework, but the way we apply it is completely personal to you. These eight aspects serve as guiding principles rather than a rigid curriculum—each week, we’ll use them as lenses to explore your unique situation, whether you're navigating relationship struggles, rebuilding after a breakup, questioning whether to stay or leave, struggling with self-esteem, feeling unfulfilled, or seeking more purpose and direction.

No two journeys look the same because no two people are the same. Our work together will help you uncover what’s keeping you stuck, gain clarity on what you truly need and want, and make aligned choices that move you toward greater confidence, peace, and fulfillment.

By the end of our time together, you won’t just have processed what you’re going through you’ll have the tools, self-trust, and clarity to create a life that truly feels like yours.

If you have any other questions about how this applies to you, feel free to reach out—I’m happy to help!