Self-Love vs. Self-Care: What's the difference? (hint: it's huge!)

Self-Love vs. Self-Care: What's the difference? (hint: it's huge!)

Self-love is a hot topic these days. And for good reason! Our relationship without ourselves, how loving it is, impacts absolutely every area of our lives.

But there’s one very big problem I see all the time with regard to self-love- it’s not really understood.

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How to Be in a Relationship and Keep Your Sense of Self

How to Be in a Relationship and Keep Your Sense of Self

Have you ever felt like you became so absorbed in your partner and your relationship with them that you began to forget who you are outside of being their significant other? Maybe you're experiencing this right now. I find it's pretty common and happens to most of us at one point or another, if not perpetually.  

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A Simple 3-Step Strategy For How to Be Confident

A Simple 3-Step Strategy For How to Be Confident

If you've been wondering how to be confident, I've got a strategy that works.

What does it actually mean to be confident? Confidence has to do with self-assurance. Essentially, you need to believe in yourself- in your own character and abilities- to be confident. And to achieve that, you've got to know yourself and what you have to offer. Ultimately, the answer to how to be confident is to be sure of who you are.

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[Audio] Are your expectations ruining your relationships? Here's how to tell (Part 2)

[Audio] Are your expectations ruining your relationships? Here's how to tell (Part 2)

Expectations are often discussed in a way that makes them all seem equal, and I've come to believe that that is so often at the root of relationship problems. We group expectations together and only ask whether or not to have them, and debate that singular question as though the problem with expectations lies only in either having them or not.

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[Audio] Are your expectations ruining your relationships? Here's how to tell (Part 1)

[Audio] Are your expectations ruining your relationships? Here's how to tell (Part 1)

Are you feeling constantly let down by the people in your life?  I used to face disappointment after disappointment- especially in my romantic relationships, but with friends, too. Let down after let down, I started wondering why I couldn't seem to attract the kind of people into my life who put in adequate effort, who were thoughtful and generous, who aimed to please- people like me! 

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[Audio] 4 Simple Habits That Make a HUGE Impact on Success & Happiness

[Audio] 4 Simple Habits That Make a HUGE Impact on Success & Happiness

When I work with my clients on achieving goals, they are often astonished by how much we will break a single goal down into several micro steps that individually do not seem to add up to much, but collectively ensure progress and ultimately success. The same is true for daily habits. When performed once or occasionally they don't lead to very many big outcomes. But done consistently, however- well, prepare to rock this life, my friends.

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[Audio] 4 Rules for Owning the Heck Out of the Day

[Audio] 4 Rules for Owning the Heck Out of the Day

Days come and days go. I mean, let's face it- time just flies on by. With the arrival of each new day there's a starting point that is all your own, and that starting point is determined by how you tackle the days that precede it. Are you slowly progressing toward your goals and dreams from one day to the next, or are you progressing in leaps and bounds?

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5 Things Smart Women Do During Hard Times

5 Things Smart Women Do During Hard Times

As sure as the night will fall after the day, so too will difficult times befall us all.  After suffering through several of my own woes over the years- such as divorce, being shunned by my family, and a devastating miscarriage- I know this all too well.

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Why You Can't Stay Motivated

Why You Can't Stay Motivated

I've found that the lack of motivation many people describe is often caused by a misunderstanding of what motivation actually is.  In this video, I address one of the most common misconceptions about motivation that hold people back, and I clarify what is required for not only getting but staying motivated to achieve your goals and live your dreams. 

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The 5-Minute Morning Routine That Will Change Everything

The 5-Minute Morning Routine That Will Change Everything

Is it important to have a morning routine? Well that depends: do you want to have the most successful day possible?  How you start each day has a tremendous impact on how successfully your entire day goes. From your mood to your mode, to how much energy you have, to how creative & productive you are, a morning routine sets the tone for your entire day- and, cumulatively, for your entire life. 

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Why You Seek Advice When You Don't Really Need It

Why You Seek Advice When You Don't Really Need It

We all need and seek advice sometimes.  You're new at something and you contact experienced friends, listen to podcasts and read books for advice.  You find yourself in a new situation and reach out to someone who has been there before.  You really don't know what to do and could use some guidance. 

But there are other times we seek advice when maybe we aren't as ignorant. I texted a friend this morning to see how her date with a guy she's been seeing went last night. Her reply was exactly what I had expected after hearing about their other dates: Not great. Got any advice?

The fact is, she already knows what she needs to do...

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[Audio] The 3 Levels of Self-Acceptance

[Audio] The 3 Levels of Self-Acceptance

"Without self-acceptance, self-esteem is impossible" writes Dr. Nathaniel Branden in The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem.

What is self-esteem and why does it matter? Self-esteem is the way in which one experiences themselves.  A person with healthy self-esteem experiences themselves as capable of handling life's basic challenges and as being worthy of love and happiness.  A person with unhealthy self-esteem experiences themselves as being incapable of handling life's difficulties and as being unworthy of joy and love. 

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17 Reasons 2017 Will Be The Best Year of Your Life

17 Reasons 2017 Will Be The Best Year of Your Life

I'm no regular clairvoyant, but I've got a premonition. I'm seeing you in 2017 and let me just tell you- you are unstoppable! Seriously, you are on fire.  Something has changed in you and, holy cow, just wait till you see. Here are the 17 causes of your unstoppable-ness in the coming year: 

  1. You are beautiful inside and out, and you finally see that.
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The Secret to Achieving Any Goal

The Secret to Achieving Any Goal

Another year is approaching its end and that can only mean one thing- everyone is thinking up goals! Or resolutions, as we like to call them at this time of year. For most of us, resolutions tend to have a similar story: they are made, they are attempted, they are abandoned. It's sad, but true.

But what if this year could be different? What if this year you knew just what to do to succeed at reaching your goal and making the progress you want to make? Well I'm here to tell you that this year you can reach your goal, and I'm going to tell you how. 

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How to Be Comfortable Asserting Your Needs in a New Relationship

How to Be Comfortable Asserting Your Needs in a New Relationship

I’ve seen it happen time and time again- the fear of rocking the boat and disrupting the perfect harmony at the start of a relationship means you keep quiet and don’t express how you really feel or ask for what you need.

As time goes on, this obviously causes a disconnect- your partner thinks everything is going fine and you have a growing frustration developing inside due to unmet needs and unexpressed feelings. Sound familiar? Don’t beat yourself up, we’ve all done it. But at some point it’s important to realize the following  things, and vow not to keep repeating this pattern anymore...

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From Stressed to Blessed- The Mindset Shift That Can Turn Your Pain into Pleasure

From Stressed to Blessed- The Mindset Shift That Can Turn Your Pain into Pleasure

Mindset- a common theme in the self-improvement realm these days. What is mindset?  Mindset is the established set of attitudes you hold. Your mindset impacts not only your day-to-day successes, but your overall success in life as well. 

Can you learn and change and grow, or not? How you answer this question determines whether you have a fixed or growth mindset. If you have a fixed mindset, your attitude is that you...

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4 Ways to Live a Spiritually Rich Life No Matter What You Believe

4 Ways to Live a Spiritually Rich Life No Matter What You Believe

We all have a spiritual dimension to our being. Yet we don’t all define spirituality the same way, and therefore don’t all go about satisfying our spiritual needs in the same way.

Regardless of what your personal approach to spirituality is, at the core, the essential spiritual need we all have is the same: to feel a sense of meaning in life and to find moments of complete presence, awe and gratitude. Do you agree?

I personally appreciate the following definition of what spiritual practice involves...

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