The Dark Side of Hope: Why We Stay Too Long

The Dark Side of Hope: Why We Stay Too Long

Four and a half years ago, I wrote in my journal:
“I am done with the disrespect.”

A month later, I asked my fiancé to move out. Four months after that, we got back together.
Two months later, I married him. And it took another three years before I finally walked away for good.

I share this because it captures something most people don’t understand: we don’t stay—or go back—because we’re weak. We do so
because hope can be blinding.

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When You’ve Expressed Your Needs and Nothing’s Changed

When You’ve Expressed Your Needs and Nothing’s Changed

You’ve talked. You’ve cried. You’ve bent yourself in half and then some. You’ve read the books, sent the articles, initiated the conversations, begged, explained, reassured, softened your delivery, and turned yourself inside out trying to be understood. You’ve done everything you know how to do to help your partner see what you need. And still, here you are…

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